[6:45:06 PM] Zac: no pink elephants
[6:45:30 PM] Erich: I would define greatness as character (being the same at home and work for ex.) and legacy (leaving the world better than you found it)
[6:45:52 PM] Zac: that’s largely as i see it as well.
[6:46:05 PM] Zac: my spirituality is shifting like crazy
[6:46:13 PM] Erich: Knowledge, Mind, and the Given
[6:46:31 PM] Zac: Where is that from?
[6:46:42 PM] Erich: http://books.google.com/books?id=PpI9qRXf57UC&pg=PA164&lpg=PA164&dq=%22no+pink+elephants%22&source=bl&ots=GQL5RcGgDu&sig=1W8KxPlvm6ysO68yzqZ7usp4yv8&hl=en&ei=omQDSse7K52ctgPpgsXjAQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1#PPP1,M1
[6:46:56 PM] Erich: I did a google search for “no pink elephants” its the first hit or so
[6:47:09 PM] Zac: holy crap!
[6:47:17 PM] Zac: where do you think of this stuff?
[6:47:29 PM] Zac: it’s the whole book
[6:50:40 PM] Zac: the whole concept of good and evil challenges me
[6:51:00 PM] Zac: like darkness is not the opposite of light, but the absence of it
[6:51:15 PM] Zac: is evil the absence of goodness?
[6:51:25 PM] Zac: is “satan” the absence of God?
[6:51:48 PM] Zac: maybe we should blog about this
[6:52:02 PM] Erich: yeah, and after watching LOST with the whole time travel thing, it makes me think about the sunday school teachers who used to tell me, every new sin you commit hurts Jesus more in the past when he had to take on all of your sin at the cross – by reducing sin NOW you can reduce His sin THEN – like time travel backwards
[6:52:34 PM] Zac: LOST was so crazy good last night
[6:52:38 PM] Erich: like there is no such thing as cold, just absence of heat
[6:52:39 PM] Zac: i love Jack’s evolution
[6:52:44 PM] Zac: exactly
[6:53:04 PM] Zac: how can their be providence from God and providence from Satan?
[6:53:21 PM] Zac: or is satan’s work just a lack of providence running its course?
[6:53:46 PM] Erich: I’ve started to not like Jack this season, but last night was the first night he seemed to be an actual player this season – second from the last show no less – well I take that back – in the beginning when he was getting people to come, that was okay, I just didn’t like him on the island at the beginning – he had a bad attitude
[6:54:18 PM] Erich: I think Satan wanted to do his own thing, so he does things, they are just not Godly
[6:54:20 PM] Zac: yeah, he was resigned to fate, and didn’t “manage his actions”
[6:54:25 PM] Erich: haha, yeah
[6:54:32 PM] Zac: i feel a post coming on
[6:55:01 PM] Erich: satan is like the guy who didn’t want to work for the boss any more and wanted to go off on his own, but there was no non-compete agreement signed, just banishment
[6:55:30 PM] Zac: how should we go about it?
[6:55:49 PM] Erich: defining a post?
[6:56:21 PM] Zac: no, the mission statment
[6:56:23 PM] Zac: or vision
[6:56:31 PM] Zac: what do we value
[6:56:33 PM] Zac: ?
[6:56:37 PM] Zac: changing lives?
[6:56:46 PM] Zac: being a source of information?
[6:56:54 PM] Erich: oh, well…
[6:57:07 PM] Zac: creating dialoge?
[6:57:12 PM] Erich: what I do at work when I have to define mission statements is I do a kind of keyword query
[6:57:34 PM] Erich: then I form sentences or a sentence from the keywords
[6:58:09 PM] Erich: so if we had one of those keyword maps or word counters on our blog, what would it say, or more importantly, what would we want it to say
[6:58:28 PM] Zac: right
[6:58:49 PM] Zac: growth
[6:59:03 PM] Erich: life
[6:59:07 PM] Erich: managing
[6:59:10 PM] Erich: actions
[6:59:11 PM] Zac: self awareness
[6:59:46 PM] Erich: purpose
[6:59:58 PM] Erich: faith
[6:59:59 PM] Erich: love
[7:00:15 PM] Zac: should we mention how movies, literature, and music affect us?
[7:00:18 PM] Zac: culture?
[7:00:19 PM] Erich: tired sleep sleepy awake
[7:00:22 PM] Zac: pop culture?
[7:00:34 PM] Erich: thought subconcious concious
[7:00:43 PM] Zac: love that
[7:01:07 PM] Erich: yes, we we are influenced heavily by Goonies, LOST, the Matrix
[7:01:22 PM] Erich: timing is a big one too
[7:01:34 PM] Erich: but not sure how that fits in with our mission
[7:01:50 PM] Erich: time
[7:01:57 PM] Erich: legacy
[7:02:06 PM] Erich: desire
[7:02:23 PM] Erich: growth
[7:02:25 PM] Erich: roi
[7:02:36 PM] Zac: we exist to discuss the relationship between our thoughts and actions, and how by managing them we can enjoy lives filled with purpose, growth, love, and legacy.
[7:02:42 PM] Erich: attitude
[7:02:56 PM] Zac: tweak away
[7:03:07 PM] Erich: okay, I’m going to hack on the verbs first
[7:03:19 PM] Zac: please do
[7:03:41 PM] Erich: I like to drop off the first three words at the begining too while planning. they are always just filler.
[7:03:54 PM] Zac: ok
[7:04:16 PM] Zac: what do you think about “discuss”?
[7:04:33 PM] Erich: that’s what I’m hacking off , sorry
[7:04:43 PM] Erich: I’m thinking of replacing it with “making”
[7:04:58 PM] Erich: or finding
[7:04:59 PM] Zac: ok, keep going
[7:05:04 PM] Zac: seeking?
[7:05:07 PM] Erich: yes
[7:05:17 PM] Erich: seeking sounds more philosophical so lets use that for now
[7:05:23 PM] Zac: like it
[7:06:43 PM] Erich: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this relationship can allow us to live a great life.
[7:07:05 PM] Zac: oddly, my only beef would be with “great life”
[7:07:14 PM] Erich: yeah, that was my filler line
[7:07:18 PM] Erich: I didn’t know how to close it
[7:07:29 PM] Zac: can we find a similar word for relationship the second time around?
[7:07:36 PM] Erich: yeah, you’re righ
[7:07:44 PM] Erich: hmm…connection?
[7:07:49 PM] Zac: amalgamation sounds so pretentious
[7:07:52 PM] Erich: partnership?
[7:08:04 PM] Erich: don’t know what that word amalgamous is
[7:08:19 PM] Zac: exactly, neither do i really
[7:08:28 PM] Zac: it’s just to make myself feel good
[7:09:06 PM] Erich: I think it means a random allotment of stuff thats placed in a lot together, but that is what google is for, our exteriour brain
[7:09:14 PM] Zac: yeah, partnership seems like it should apply to people more than….
[7:09:37 PM] Erich: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this relationship can allow us to live a great life.
[7:09:41 PM] Zac: are you looking up synonms?
[7:09:59 PM] Erich: no, but try the visual synonm generator
[7:10:16 PM] Erich: http://www.visualthesaurus.com/
[7:10:51 PM] Zac: alliance?
[7:10:54 PM] Erich: state
[7:11:16 PM] Erich: connectedness
[7:11:26 PM] Zac: like that
[7:11:29 PM] Zac: link?
[7:11:38 PM] Erich: to what
[7:11:43 PM] Zac: a zelda reference
[7:11:47 PM] Zac: and encino man
[7:11:57 PM] Erich: oh
[7:12:01 PM] Zac: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this link can allow us to live a great life.
[7:12:02 PM] Erich: legend of zelda link
[7:12:11 PM] Erich: I see, sory, forgot what we were talking about
[7:12:17 PM] Erich: yeah, duh, link, good one.
[7:12:30 PM] Zac: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gokttuXJME&feature=channel_page
[7:13:00 PM] Zac: they are great.
[7:13:06 PM] Zac: 2 and ahalf minutes
[7:13:11 PM] Erich: I guess we do then
[7:13:12 PM] Zac: have you seen that one?
[7:13:22 PM] Erich: no, not this one, but that satan guy is hilarious!
[7:13:27 PM] Zac: he really is
[7:13:31 PM] Zac: i want him as a friend
[7:13:47 PM] Erich: he does seem like he’d be a good friend, you’re right
[7:14:26 PM] Zac: ok, i’m liking our statement so far
[7:14:30 PM] Erich: “definitely for it” its hilarious that he thanks God for it
[7:14:57 PM] Zac: let me find another one
[7:15:03 PM] Erich: okay
[7:16:06 PM] Zac: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDqRheBu2cg
[7:17:40 PM] Erich: so, what is it now, …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this link can allow us to live a great life.
[7:17:58 PM] Zac: how about “fulfilling life”?
[7:18:20 PM] Erich: hmm, how about some of those adjectives we used before instead
[7:18:34 PM] Erich: how we defined life – character, legacy
[7:18:53 PM] Zac: life of character?
[7:19:05 PM] Zac: life worthy of a legacy
[7:19:10 PM] Erich: …allow us to live a life of character.
[7:19:19 PM] Zac: yep
[7:19:19 PM] Erich: it seems like we can’t use both though.
[7:19:37 PM] Zac: now, the begninning
[7:19:58 PM] Erich: …allow us to leave a legacy by living a life of character.
[7:20:20 PM] Zac: now, that’s some poetry erich!
[7:21:35 PM] Erich: thanks, but its almost too powerful – it overwhelms the initial purpose of the mission statement in the begining – but maybe not
[7:22:02 PM] Erich: unless you view it like the five w’s, who what when where why how
[7:22:14 PM] Zac: put it all together
[7:22:17 PM] Erich: who: we are…
[7:22:19 PM] Zac: what have we got?
[7:22:34 PM] Erich: what: seeking to define the relationship between our thoughs and our actions
[7:23:10 PM] Erich: why: to learn and share how
[7:23:35 PM] Erich: how: managing this link
[7:23:58 PM] Erich: where: in our lives.
[7:24:40 PM] Zac: i’m pretty happy with that, although it doesn’t necessarily touch on God or providence
[7:24:42 PM] Erich: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this link can allow us to live a great life allow us to live a life of character.
[7:24:59 PM] Zac: do we want that?
[7:25:13 PM] Erich: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this link can allow us to live a life of character.
[7:25:15 PM] Zac: …seeking to define the relationship between our thoughts and our actions to learn and share how managing this link can allow us to live a life of character.
[7:25:20 PM] Zac: jinx
[7:25:21 PM] Erich: sorry, messedup the first time
[7:25:25 PM] Erich: haha
[7:25:33 PM] Erich: chat jinx, not sure if that counts
[7:25:39 PM] Erich: all though its got to count for something
[7:25:45 PM] Zac: what do you think about providence?
[7:25:49 PM] Zac: or God?
[7:25:55 PM] Zac: or the unexplainable?
[7:25:55 PM] Erich: pre determination
[7:26:03 PM] Erich: I think God exists because he does stuff
[7:26:18 PM] Zac: i mean, in our statement
[7:26:39 PM] Erich: when you believe he does stuff, but I guess a disbeliever would say, “you’re attributing things to God when you have previously asked God for these things”
[7:26:45 PM] Erich: oh
[7:27:02 PM] Zac: would a post about jack’s transformation be about his response to destiny “proving” itself?
[7:27:08 PM] Erich: I’m not sure how providence would fit in the mission statement
[7:27:18 PM] Zac: or would it just be about his thoughts and his new behaviours that have sprung from that?
[7:27:27 PM] Zac: i think i may have just answered my own question
[7:27:40 PM] Zac: if it affects our thoughts and/or actions, it is relevent
[7:27:44 PM] Zac: we are pretty golden there
[7:27:51 PM] Zac: like bea arthur
[7:27:54 PM] Zac: rip
[7:28:13 PM] Erich: well from the beginning the show has been a mirror, 180 days on the island, halway through the season, light, dark, ying yang, jack on one side, locke on the other
[7:28:35 PM] Erich: jack is more like locke now and locke is more like jack now in the second half
[7:29:01 PM] Zac: i know. lock is the “leader” and jack is the “believer”
[7:29:09 PM] Zac: it’s a beautiful, beautiful thing
[7:29:24 PM] Zac: i am so impressed that a show of this quality exists
[7:29:33 PM] Zac: that could be a weekly feature for the next season
[7:29:39 PM] Erich: huh, I didn’t notice that, you’re right though. I wonder who Jacob is. Jacob might be a kind of metaphor for God in this conversation
[7:29:44 PM] Zac: you and i remarking on our thoughts of an episode
[7:29:57 PM] Zac: he is either God or the pope
[7:29:59 PM] Zac: i think
[7:30:12 PM] Erich: the scientist wants to kill “God” the one who unanswered things get thought by
[7:31:48 PM] Zac: looking forward seems to be the best medicine, but wisdom comes frorm not making the same mistakes twice
[7:32:00 PM] Zac: i think that i’m going to tweet that
[7:32:20 PM] Erich: yeah, you done good with that tweet, son
[7:36:03 PM] Zac: i’m so very much like john locke (first few seasons). signs of the right path. the island talking to him
[7:36:45 PM] Erich: Who or what is “the island” to you? <–sounds like a blog post title
[7:37:16 PM] Erich: and Locke has crazy woman troubles, not sure how that relates
[7:37:18 PM] Zac: providence/God
[7:37:28 PM] Zac: very true
[7:37:34 PM] Zac: jack as well
[7:37:37 PM] Zac: and sawyer
[7:37:46 PM] Zac: and charlie
[7:37:47 PM] Erich: that’s true too, they all have woman troubles and daddy issues
[7:38:01 PM] Zac: i vascilate between jack and locke a lot
[7:38:05 PM] Zac: also desmond and charlie
[7:38:14 PM] Zac: who do you relate to?
[7:38:28 PM] Erich: hurley’s dad, the chinese dude’s dad, jack’s dad, locke’s dad, kate’s dad
[7:38:50 PM] Erich: who do I relate too? hurley kind of – laid back
[7:39:21 PM] Zac: hurley is like the everyman
[7:39:21 PM] Erich: I wish I was as cool as sawyer – Jack’s kind of a nerd – he wasn’t in season 1, but he is kind of now to me – not sure why
[7:39:25 PM] Zac: like the audience
[7:39:32 PM] Erich: yeah, you’re exactly right
[7:39:50 PM] Zac: jack just got thrown out of wack and is trying to find something to hold onto
[7:40:01 PM] Erich: that was hilarious last night when he said, “Okay, we’re from the future” since he didn’t know the president. I was cracking up, dude.
[7:40:15 PM] Zac: man, we need to have a lost post fest
[7:40:47 PM] Zac: ok, is our mission statement 99% done?
[7:40:48 PM] Erich: yeah, Jack likes to fix things – for a while, the providence made fixing impossible…but now…providence has lead him to be ABLE to fix something
[7:41:01 PM] Zac: that is a great thought!
[7:41:13 PM] Zac: I would love to read more of your thoughts on this.
[7:41:16 PM] Erich: yeah, that one was for free
[7:41:53 PM] Erich: hahaha, I figured you’re going to write at least one post on Jack and the role of providence in his life, how it affects his actions.
[7:42:27 PM] Erich: Or we could just copy this thread and post it. It’s our blog, we can do what we want with it.
[7:42:27 PM] Zac: i think that sounds perfect. it can be a recurring theme in our blog
[7:42:37 PM] Zac: hmmm
[7:43:21 PM] Zac: yeah, do you want to edit it down and we can put it up now, with a tease for more lost related thoughts to come?
[7:44:06 PM] Erich: Definitely a theme though. Our primary keyword is “actions”. How does roadblocks affect our actions – what do we do when things get in the way of our goals. How does providence affect our actions – if everything is predetermined, then why does anything matter? just two examples there.
[7:44:19 PM] Erich: Yeah, I can post it sure.
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LOST: How Providence Affects Jack’s Actions
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Creative Avoidance
This is a guest post by Zac Parsons. Enjoy. – Erich
“Ah yes, its Monday. I have to be focused and productive again.”
“Now that the weekend is over, I have to go back to work.”
“I have to get up early today, or else I will get fired.”
Look at all of the things that we HAVE to do in life. Really, look at them in your own life. Write them down if you would like. How long is your list? Now, in a certain sense, what you HAVE to do, depends on what the consequence is. It also depends on what you are relating the action in question to. In this case, I asked about life. So your answers should have something to do with eating, breathing, sleeping, etc. In order to stay alive (to avoid the consequence of death), you HAVE to do these things. All other “have to’s” in our lives work the same way. You just need to discover what the consequence is. The “or else”.
“Want To”
The alternative to a “have to” is a “want to”. Instead of looking at the consequence, you look at the positive result of the action in question. You are drawn to this result, and you WANT to obtain it or achieve it. It’s not something you are running from, it’s something that you are running to. The difference may seem subtle, but it is HUGE!
To do anything, we need energy. This is why we eat, breathe, sleep, etc., so that we can build up energy to interact with the world around us. If everyone in the world was running from what consequences they want to avoid, the world would be chaos. If everyone was drawn to something and there were no consequences to flee, we would have peace on earth or heaven on earth. Some people believe that this is how the world will end, in one of those two fashions. In the meantime, how would you like to live your life?
Subconscious Thought
Our minds work in much the same way. If we feel like we HAVE to do some sort of task, our minds will come up with all sorts of creative ways to avoid doing the task. This has been called “creative avoidance”. We can fill our day with all sorts of tasks and actions that are basically “good” and “productive”, but they keep us from our HAVE to task, so that is where we really subconsciously value them. Our mind is protecting us from it, since it is associated with the negative consequence of not doing it. When we understand the positive value of what will be gained from the task, then we WANT to do it!
A Personal Example
This exact thing happened to me today! I woke up and sat down at my computer to start the work day. I knew that I had to write an article today, so why not start early? Well, I noticed that I had some emails in my inbox. Those have to be looked at eventually, right? So I sidetracked myself on that. I had a stack of CDs next to me that were not in my iTunes library. That will help unclutter my desk, and that’s a good thing, right? So I spent 30 minutes doing that. My running shoes are right next to me, I think that I will go out and get some exercise for my body and help to relax my mind! So I even went off to do that.
My mind can be a genius at getting me out of things. That’s why I procrastinated with tests and homework all through school. I allowed myself to be motivated by the negative result, and not by the positive of the completed task. So, when I locked on to the value of writing my article, I realized that I WANTED to do it. I saw the value in the completed product. The words just started flowing. And what a great feeling that is.
Creative Avoidance Can be Helpful
For a healthy psyche and the accomplishment of your life’s purpose, creative avoidance can be helpful. Jesus said to turn the other cheek when you’re angry, but that is not the avoidance I am talking about today. In Psychology, avoidance means the passive act of not doing something that is good for you and using or doing something else instead that is harmful, or that hinders your personal growth and healing. Procrastination is a first cousin to avoidance, though usually of shorter duration, and with an end result of ultimately doing what is good for you after some delay.
When It’s Dysfunctional to Avoid
Take Jamie for example. She is hypersensitive to disapproval and rejection, she fears the possibility of being shamed or ridiculed, and these feelings lead to limited interactions with her peers. Jamie”s social avoidance stems from feeling deeply inadequate. As a result, she finds it difficult to have easily satisfying interpersonal relationships. Avoidance in this sense is highly detrimental not only to her personal success, but also to a good quality of life. If you’ve got to the point where you are avoiding paying your bills because doing so triggers irrational feelings of scarcity and insecurity then the avoidance may be dysfunctional.
Dysfunctional avoidance are activities that harm or hinder clear understanding and longevity in relationships, feeling good about oneself, and having normal effectiveness in the world. These types of thought, feeling, and behavioral avoidance actions are patterns that can create enormous stress, anxiety, and depression. These patterns can be detected in the self-judging, self-blaming remarks we make about ourselves, and in some of the false beliefs we have about what we can’t do. Be very careful about the way you talk to yourself. Learning to manage your thoughts will help you manage your actions.Dysfunctional avoidance is sometimes a faulty coping mechanism that kicks into gear, often without conscious intent. The more they travel that unconscious path, the deeper the “habit ruts” in their brains become. Once in this rut, it’s easier to get stuck in the negative “I can’t” frame of mind, which is often self-fulfilling.
Dysfunctional avoidance is often fueled by patterns of unconscious denial of actual realities. If you find yourself creatively avoiding something, regardless of your motive or intent, ask yourself if what you are doing is justified or for a greater good. If the results of what you are doing harms yourself or others, think twice about doing it. One of the biggest avoidances is conflict, but as Garth Brooks said, “The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and himself.”
Creative Avoidance Can Be Useful
Not all avoidance is bad. Sometimes it can be good so long as the timing and time spent allows us to evaluate our circumstances, brainstorm, and/or review technological changes like we wrote about in Determining Your Purpose in Life or Process.
Sometimes creative avoidances can not only be justified, but altogether useful. For example, avoiding an assignment by taking a walk can be good for your health. And doing chores that need done anyway before doing the the thing in which you are trying to avoid can be good as long as the chores actually needed to get done and you don’t spend your entire allotted time doing them.
Usually, creative avoidance involves choosing one activity over another that might be deemed worthy by an outside party, such as joining the military, but inside you know that the real reason you joined was because you had just broken up with someone and you wanted to get away. You will still benefit from the military, regardless of the motive.
But, sometimes creative avoidance involves a guilty pleasure in the act of choosing. For example, Jake goes out dancing to avoid doing his homework, and then is unable to complete his homework the next day because he is hungover. We might question if that avoidance choice was creative or dysfunctional, in other words, what was the intent or motive?
How to Know the Difference Between Creative and Dysfunctional Avoidance
To help determine if you or someone else is using avoidance creatively or dysfunctionally, ask the following questions:
- Is the activity freeing or binding? – Does this activity allow you to avoid something you don’t like?
- Is the activity beneficial or empowering? – Does this activity produce anything that will help you or anyone else?
Answering the question restates the avoidance, which helps us be aware of what motivates our actions. In this way we can better manage our actions. An en example of a restatement is:
I’m choosing to do this instead of that right now, so that I can return to that when I’m ready with clarity, courage, and a fresh set of eyes.
It is possible to change our thought process in order to change our actions. We can stop dysfunctional avoidance completely if we pay attention to what is real and less of our intuition. If it helps you, start a journal recording when you begin to think of something to do instead of what you’re “supposed” to be doing – and your motivations for doing so or reasons why you didn’t give in.
Creative avoidance can be an adventure, but it can also cost you valuable time and energy. Learning to manage our thoughts and actions helps us see the patterns we can develop in our lives, which gives us the tools and ability to change.
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Who Limits Your Success?
This is a guest post by Zac Parsons. Enjoy. – Erich
Seriously. Think about that question. Maybe first you need to look at how you define success, but that’s easy because the only person that this question matters to….is YOU! Maybe you define success by how much money you make. Maybe its how many people respect you. Perhaps its how close you feel to God. We all know of a place in our lives or a state of being that we wish we were at. Something that we are working towards. The closer we get to there, the more successful we feel.
So, maybe your parents didn’t teach you the right things, or did teach you the WRONG things. Maybe you didn’t have the best teachers growing up, or you couldn’t afford the right kind of schooling/training after high school. Maybe your friends just don’t have the tools or attitudes that you need to move closer to “success”. Is your town the right place you need to be in to achieve that success?
Ok, now think about how many of those things are in your control. How many of those problems are based on choices that you have made or continue to make? Ok, so the parents doesn’t really seem like a choice. But, if you can identify that some of the things taught to you were right and others were wrong, then you are close to identifying what you need to add or subtract in order to reach you closer to your goal. Then, once you have identified those things, you have to ask yourself the question: “How do I assimilate those things into my life?” So, once you answer that question, it is a matter of choosing to follow it or not.
Laziness
It is nearly impossible to find a successful person that is lazy. Now, there are some people that work HARD, and are not successful in the way that they say they want to be. As we all probably know, the key is working SMARTER. Creative thinking, and understanding WHAT you want are key to being successful on your terms. But, once you have developed some ideas, you have to DO them! This is where I have tripped myself up in the past. Sometimes I call it fear, but a lot of the times, I know that it is just laziness.
I have to understand and believe that I have the power to change the situations around me. I live in freaking America in 2009! I have the opportunity to change my location, my vocation, my education, my social compilation, my sexual orientation, and ANYTHING ELSE! Who’s stopping me? Who’s stopping you? Quit being a victim. Go change the world. Start with yourself.
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How to Have a Happy New Year
How to have a happy new year:
1. Tell yourself you are going to have a good year. Give up on the thinking that for every good thing that happens there will be something bad. It doesn’t have to work that way, but will if you want it to. Say you are going to have a good year and that it doesn’t have to be offset by bad. Then write it down and speak it out loud.
2. Ask yourself what you want. Be specific. Narrow it down by using actions and places. What do you want to accomplish at home? What do you want to accomplish in your business life? What things would you like to own? Where might you want to go to see or show someone? Write down your answers, then speak them out loud.
3. Take inventory of your assets and liabilities. Surround yourself with family and team member who share your positive outlook on life and eliminate or narrow your exposure to those who are constantly negative. Cut out things in your life that are busy work or that are uncessary. Ask yourself why you are doing something. If you don’t know the answer, stop.
4. Take a step towards one of your goals each day. Action cures fear. A goal like debt reduction or quitting your job can be scary and seem insurmountable. It is probably impossible to do in one step so don’t. Figure out the next action, then write it down. Speak the action out loud and set a deadline of accomplishing this action within the next 8 hours.
5. Develop a system to manage your thoughts or ideas. If you’ve followed these steps you have been writing things down. They may be on the back of an envelope, on a receipt in your car, or in an email or text message. USe whatever you feel comfortable with to collect these musings into one cohesive place. Only use a calendar for hard and fast dates, not for action items. Try to avoid using email as your method of choice if possible.
6. Relax. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Take time to smell the roses and the aftershave. Unplug. Check your email less often. Read the news less. Take more walks. Lay down outside. Feel the ground. Decompress. Take a deep breath at least once a day. Laugh. Forgive. Love. Visit your mother wherever she is. Don’t make lists, take actions. Conquer fear.